Last updated on March 23, 2021
We all need help at some point. No one can do everything entirely on their own, no matter what they may think or say. But sometimes it’s hard finding help. You don’t want to bug your friends. Or you’re worried about looking silly/stupid. So you plod along on your own, hoping Google will magically reveal the answer.l
Here’s my advice: just ask. Post something on Facebook, either on your feed, or in a group dedicated to the thing you need help with. Or try Instagram, Twitter, or Snapchat. Call a family member (family can be blood relations, or super close friends). Talk to your neighbor. Ask a professor, or a coworker. Just ask.
You’d be surprised how often people are more than willing to help. It seems like they’re just waiting for a chance to pass on knowledge. As an added bonus, anyone who makes you feel bad, in any way, about asking questions, lets you know that they aren’t someone you really want to associate with.
And once your question is answered, return the favor. Answer questions for other people. Take time to respond to posts. Let your friends and family know that they can ask questions without feeling bad. The more you put good out into the world, the more good you’ll get back.
Now, I’m not saying there won’t be jerks, but if you practice a bit of due diligence to make sure you’re asking in the right places, they will be few and far between. And, for the most part, you’ll get a lot of great help and advice.
So set aside your nervousness, your fear, your worry, and reach out to someone, or multiple someones. We live in an age where you can connect with anyone in the world. Make use of that ability.