Last updated on November 28, 2022
At roughly a year since I first sought help for a resurgence of ADHD symptoms, I’ve learned a lot, especially from meme accounts on Instagram. One of the big things I’ve learned about fairly recently is that sharing a personal story to relate to something someone has said isn’t something everyone does! I legitimately never noticed that I could be somewhat unusual in that.
I have however, long since realized I have a tendency to interrupt people. I’ve been working hard on that, doing my best to wait for a natural pause in the conversation to share my stories. Or, when I slip up and interrupt, I try to pause, excuse myself, and apologize as soon as I realize what I’ve done. But, going back to my main point…
ADHD’ers, and perhaps other neurodivergents — I haven’t expanded my research to find out — will often share stories to show they understand and empathize/sympathize with the person they’re conversing with. For example, let’s say I’m having a conversation with a friend about dieting problems. I’d likely share how I’ve given up on dieting because they don’t work long term for me. I may even mention how I’m focusing on changing eating habits instead.
I promise, I’m not trying to make the conversation about me. That thought wouldn’t have once entered my head. But now that I’ve found out that this is, apparently, unusual, I end up questioning myself, wondering if the person or people I’m talking to think I’m self-centered.
The sad part is, it’s typically the opposite. I’m trying to relate to you; to show I hear you and I understand, share your feelings, and/or have experienced similar situations.
This hasn’t ever been brought to my attention, so the people I’ve spoken with in my life were either too polite to voice their displeasure, understood what I was trying to say, or were, themselves, neurodivergent and understood my point. Let’s hope it’s one of the latter.
Based on the memes and posts I’ve come across, neurotypical people do this far less? If you’re neurotypical, please let me know if this is something you do, or if it’s something you’ve noticed in others. I know that everything online should be taken with a grain of salt, so I’m curious to see what “real” people have to say.
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